communication

i remember a sentence in my handbook of communication back on early days of my college. communication is inevitable, you cannot NOT communicate, for the rest of your life.

easiest way to communicate is through talking. another lesson i got, talking is creating a dialog, (at least) 2 way conversation. monologue, doesn't count. talking involves sending the message and receiving the message, we can't just keep sending words or the other way around, receiving words into our head. talking is even hard already sometimes.

me and him, sometimes lost the message somewhere in the middle of the process. it turn out that it's not just the content of the message that counts, but also the way we convey the message. the way i say things. my expression. my tone. the volume. when you know someone so well, bet you can tell whenever he/she hides anger from you, coz it's just obvious.

for people like me, who adores writing as main communication channel, technology is a precious gift. back then, i used to write my parents a letter when i had to admit that i was seeing a guy and wanted to invite him to my birthday party (yes lil, where are you now?) me and my dad used to write letters and used telex to share daily stories when my dad on duty abroad for months. phone? rarely yet expensive at that time (we had to stay at my grandfather's house just to receive a phone call from my dad - 1990ish). can you imagine?!

then there it comes hi tech era. when we need to buy specific voucher just to send sms to each other, sms among different providers was quite impossible few years ago. i must admit, sms and internet is one of the best things ever happened to human kind - yes, if we use it wisely. i can freely express my feelings (mostly of anger and despair) to everyone, including my beloved man. downside is, if he/ she is not the kind of visual person who prefers to say everything upfront rather than writing, it's almost like a monologue isn't??

until tonite, when something stupid comes along, when someone is actually in front of my eyes but then i can't see him anyway, i got the most updated lesson. we have to communicate by heart, not necessarily by telepathy but put your heart in the other's shoes. feel empathy to the other. less judgment. less volume. less tone. much love.

forgive me for keep yelling at you today, mplung...